I've just sent an email gently refusing a lovely offer of a party for my birthday. The problem is I've imposed upon people this year for a wedding shower, baby shower, wedding, and been to another wedding party. I'm all partied out. I hope the person understands that I appreciate the thought, but am not up for more parties. Also, I'm on call for the baby coming, and it could happen any time now. A friend's grandson was just born a month early. So all plans need to be fluid.
I really considered my words carefully, and hope she understands. This is such tricky business, but I'd been thinking for many months what I wanted to do for my birthday, and a big party was too deja vu. I'm lucky, as my kids have a two night getaway planned and that sounds wonderful, but will be 10 adults plus 3 kids, so that qualifies as party group right there.
In the past, I would not have had the nerve to say no. I'd be so afraid of hurting a friend's feelings, and go through with something I did not want just because it was such a nice offer. I'm a lot more honest than I used to be. I still don't wish to hurt anyone else, but I'm kinder to myself as well. Gee, it almost feels like I'm getting to be a grownup!
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