Last night we went out to dinner for our anniversary. I was noticing that we carefully pick topics when we're out, especially at one of those restaurants where you are close to other tables. Some of our "safe" themes are films, books we've read, plans for a trip, and news articles that are not "hot buttons". Our family, friends and other subjects are off limits, because we live in a small community and you never know who might be sitting next to you. But it's kind of funny as well, because sometimes it feels like I'm in a spy movie and being sly about what I say. Yet this is right speech, because mentioning names could hurt and people do listen. I know because I've overheard talk myself.
I especially feel that political topics are unsafe in public. You may very well be offending someone, and disturbing their peace. But even so, the truth is I'm not so fiesty about most politics these days. The whole arena is dualistic, when the problems to solve are complex. I don't get so hot under the collar and am inclined to attempt seeing the other side's point of view as dispassionately as possible. If there is to be dialogue and compromise and action, then there must be listening openly and fairly.
There are urgent matters, but lots of deep breathing and equanimity will get a person further along the road to solutions.
So what we had last night was "dinner conversation". It was pleasant, the food was excellent, the mood calm and warm. A perfect night out or even night off from the world.
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