Our younger son is contemplating some changes in his life, and he talked with my husband and me this week over the phone about it. I had to get past the pangs at the thought of him moving, and reassured him whatever changes he made would be okay. He wants to shift maybe his work, place he lives, maybe buy a house. These are big steps, but he's a careful and cautious man, and even mistakes are fixable. Sometimes you just have to try something out instead of debating about it. I understand that. What I'm grateful for is how sensible he is, and that he has a girlfriend by his side who will be sharing these life changes. He's not alone.
But his talking about this reminds me that despite practicing Buddhism, I can be resistant to change, and my heart struggle against what my head knows: he's a grown man who may benefit from moving elsewhere, and he now has pulls via his girlfriend to different areas where her family and friends live. This is the way life is. It's healthy and wholesome. Having him nearby is wonderful, but we can visit and adjust. He lived a decade on the east coast and we missed him but managed.
So I hope my advice to him is helpful and not biased and loving. Even if I'm struggling a bit with the idea of his going. Love is free, not bound.
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