The seating plan for a wedding is to facilitate right speech, or happy speech, or friendly speech. Those figuring out the seating plan are attempting to orchestrate engagement and inclusion in the event. It's a tough challenge, and you can't really control people having a good time or not. But we try. Our family is hoping for the two families to meet and learn about each other, and that, basically, everyone will feel comfortable and have someone to talk to. This takes a lot of luck, and in the end, a letting go.
Only one guest has so far demanded to be seating next to a friend. Each set of parents has made suggestions, but, at least on our side, we're trusting the bride, since she is our daughter. We know that her primary concern is to keep us happy but to really, really keep her friends happy. Since my husband and I plan to roam all the tables and talk to as many people as possible, we will keep an eye out for anyone who seems bored or lonely. But we also be pulled many directions, so we'll just do the best we can. Being forgiving of oneself is essential in a situation where 100 people need attention.
I'm trusting the joy of the occasion puts people in a right speech frame of mind. I feel that will aid me in my quest to be mother protector of the universe.
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