I'm having a bit of an argument with my husband over his planning. Sometimes he says he wants to go to the cabin, but he waffles back and forth about going, and wants to reserve the right to change his mind several times. If he takes the dogs, then I can make plans. But he waffles on that as well, and that means I have to stay around home and cannot go see my grandson. So today I asked him to make a decision about going or not and taking the dogs or not, so that I could make plans of my own. In the past he has gone at the last minute and I cannot do anything with friends because its such late notice, and I end up at home reading and getting bored.
We will see if he keeps his promise to decide and stick to it this week. He genuinely is indecisive, but it's impacting me more than is fair. I have trouble defending myself because from his point of view I do "lots of things". I am way more social than he, and I need to feel I'm seeing more than just him. When he worked, it was easier to do a lot that didn't include him, but now, he resents my being away, but doesn't want to do much with me. He's at loose ends. I hear from friends a lot of husbands have this problem with retirement, and they don't have the habit of planning activities for themselves. I'm sympathetic, up to a point. And the point is right now.
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