Why is so often these days right speech seems to be about keeping silent? Is this the wisdom of old age or the fatigue of old age? I wait for my kids to ask me about an issue, or the story unfolds. They are all competent adults, so their privacy is important. We are not keeping tabs on each other. We check in, and luckily I see them fairly often, except for my out-of-state daughter. We text. They send photos. But their struggles are their own, and I'm not of an age yet when my issues need to be supported by them.
If I get worried, I call. I usually don't ask directly, but listen to their tone and mood and only question them if something seems off. They've all poured their hearts out to me at times and I to them, but we've not got relationships where a lot of personal information is exchanged. They've got their friends for that, and some have therapists. I admit my therapist acts as a filter for me, so I don't overreact or burden them with unnecessary worries.
This cautionary method is not for everyone, I'm just saying, for me that's what's happening these days. I'm noticing, but not judging myself or them.
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