I've had a perilous path this week with right speech. I've had a lot of bad speech addressed to me, upsetting me, and I've had to let go of any response, because it's not my business and people have attempted to put me in the middle out of their own reactivity. Luckily, I talked to my therapist yesterday, which re-enforced my determination to stay out of the tempest and see what comes. I every case, I've offered support to the person and in no case can I fix anything. So there it is. We'd like to set the record straight, get the people on the right path, but, oh, right, we have no real idea of what the right path for another person is. We only know they maybe need professional help. Don't know. My Zen teacher's mantra is still the best position. We're grandiose if we think we can change people by guiding them. Sometimes our own behavior, over time, changes our relationship with the other person, but our words, not so much. Words are easy, and inadequate.
You have to trust people to work out issues by themselves. I am letting go and trusting whatever is necessary will somehow transpire. Things change. A road that looks completely blocked opens up. Or the road feared turns out to be the road to healthy change. We don't know. Patience and calm response are the best policy. But, boy, can they be a challenge!
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