Tuesday, December 16, 2014

Waandering Along the Path: Right Speech

Yesterday I was down.  I had that kind of silence in me that is not healthy.  I felt too depressed to speak much.  I attended both groups, but with a heavy heart.  I didn't want to speak about my brother, but I didn't feel engaged enough to speak of other things.  Perhaps I should have absented myself.  When asked in the second group to share any news, I declined. 

Everything feels like a slog right now.  I haven't planned a ceremony for my brother's ashes, I haven't resolved any legal stuff, I'm waiting for the death certificates and the hearing and yet I dread them.  I try to imagine beginning all the tasks after the hearing, and I feel exhausted.  I'm sad.

Still, I am getting out.  My husband and I are going to a movie today.  I'm attending a women's night at a friend's tonight.  I just don't feel like I'll be in the same mood as anyone else this evening, and I won't know them. 

I'm trapped.  What's on my mind is depressing, and it depresses me further to speak of it.  So I am silencing myself.  Wrong speech, but what is right speech in this case?  Time will heal, this I know.  But the holidays are rough, and in a few days a childhood friend and her husband are visiting, and they are witnesses for the hearing, and I will have to discuss everything with them, and that will be painful.  Ugh.

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