Yesterday an 87 year old friend left a phone message about a movie we're going to see, only she thought yesterday was Wednesday and was a bit panicked about checking in beforehand. She also thought we had to get their early, but we have assigned seats and I have the tickets. I phoned back and left a message saying it was tomorrow. Now tomorrow is today, and we'll see if she is early or waits until my suggested time of 6:45. She's amazing for her age and sharp most of the time, but more and more confusion is in the mix. I don't want to patronize her, and I hope my tone and message was light and easy. Whether she should be driving over here at night is another story, but since I don't drive at night, I cannot offer to pick her up and bring her home. She also lives on the other side of town which is at least a 20 minute drive. Do I say no to night stuff? She seems to drive okay. But it doesn't feel right. I certainly don't want to hurt her feelings.
She's so enthusiastic and fun to be with. I don't want to dampen that joy, or act as if she is dottering. I have my own problems, and do not feel superior. But I'm determined now to pick only day activities to do with her, where I am able to drive. That's what I did on our last outing, and maybe I'm going to have to search for things to do in her neck of the woods instead of mine. Delicacy and tact are required. I hope I'm up to it.
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