I'm in this strange position of friends waiting for news of my grandchild's arrival, so they aren't bugging me and I have no plans with them. I'm kind of isolated, because now it is my daughter-in-law's mother who is there with them, and we are outside the loop, in a way. I have no activities planned, as we'd expected to be helping out, and I feel I should wait to contact people until I have baby news. I'm anxious, as the days go on, and would be so relieved if the little fellow would arrive. I've distracted myself about as much as I am able, and when friends do contact me they have advice which I cannot pass on, because I don't want more pressure on the couple. They have a doula, a doctor and now mom there, and all my relaying advice would do is add to stress. At least I know that. I have that much sense.
Now the pressure I feel is nothing compared to the impending parents, and I'm sending tonglen to them in my prayers. This is a momentous time and event. I can see my daughter-in-law is tired and worn from the anticipation, and the responsibility. She's being so brave and upbeat, but now wakes up at four am each morning. It's time, or almost time at least. I'm powerless to ease them, but I'm trying to ease myself as much as possible. And it's challenging.
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