Wandering Along the Path: Right Speech

Today is my husband's birthday. He's feeling good partly because he has his new IPhone and is getting lots of calls. It's nice it's working out the way I hoped. Yesterday my friend and I went to her husband's gravesite and sat in lawn chairs and talked about him and death and bardo. He's been dead 24 years, so has missed his two kids' graduations, wedding, work achievement, etc. I talked about my first husband, who missed so much of our two children as well. He's been dead 36 years, so graduations, weddings, grandchildren and of course, the death of our daughter two months ago. We discussed how it feels to witness someone you love's death, and how difficult it is to wrap your mind around the loss. Very philosophical we were. The sun was shining, they were mowing the grass on the hill, we forgot our hats, but wore our masks, as we contemplated the mysteries.