Sunday, September 13, 2020
Wandering Along the Path: Right Speech
One of the things I'm noticing when I talk to friends right now is an increased equanimity about whatever is happening: fire, pandemic, the upcoming election, losses, illness. It's as if the overwhelm has somehow settled them. I'm not saying there is no anxiety, of course we all feel it. But the sense than "this" will soon be over is dissolved. There is no timeline or endgame, and we now get that. There is more aimless pleasure in a Facetime call. Yesterday I spent a long time talking about nothing with my younger son, his wife and their son. We talked about water painting. I watched my grandson sit in various chairs and move them around. He poured cheerios from a measuring cup into a bowl (my idea), We avoided any serious discussion because we are living in a serious discussion. We just "chatted". That term is often used to diminish the connections between women, as if we are trivial. But chatting is creating a comfort zone for people we care about, and women have much more practice in this skill. I'm happy my son and husband also have skills in this area, and my other son and daughter as well. We're "checking in". It's circling around love, which is what is keeping us all going right now. There is no lessening of love during these current crises. I think we feel it more powerfully and our strength comes from our capacity for love. We don't have to DO anything, we can just BE.
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