Wandering Along the Path: Right Speech

My friend and I went for a walk and lunch yesterday.  One thing we discussed was a mutual friend turning 90 soon and what to do for her birthday.  She likes art and excursions, so we thought of various itineraries, and then, my friend said maybe we should do the celebration early, as she has a feeling that our friend's struggles against the aging process are now battles being lost.  My friend has a sense of urgency.  I myself can't tell how the friend is doing, except to see that one physical ailment improves and another surfaces.  Our friend is lively, curious, energetic and passionate about "getting out".  I can see she's fighting having any kind of help or plan for when she cannot live alone in her house.  It may not be wise, but it is a testament to her determination to not be locked into the old age cage.  What will I do?  I'm contemplating downsizing and definitely aware of my own limits these days, but how fast and how far do we fall?  None of us knows.  We cannot be entirely prepared.  Too many variables.  But we can support our friend, and keep her in the loop, and root for her version of what she wants for her old age.  But as my mother used to say, what will be will be.