Wandering Along the Path: Right Speech

We went to our new lawyer to sign our wills this morning. My husband was nervous. I'd had to admonish him for stalling about it. The lawyer said she had noticed that it was almost always the men who were resistant and upset about wills, and the women just wanted to get it over and be done with it. I also had suggested we send copies to each of our kids, and my husband had said he didn't want to, but while we were in the office he changed his mind, and she reassured him it would be sent as a pdf file, which could easily be sent on to the kids. I feel part of my husband's uncomfortableness is fear of death, since he said in the car men usually die before their wives. I countered that in his family such was not the case, and he probably had 25 more years. But the part I observe but don't mention is men's belief that they should be in charge during financial discussions. They want to be "manly". But I have the better head for finance, and am rational and clear sighted. My husband is impulsive and prone to decisions he regrets, so really, I'm the confident one, which I owe to my father, whom I resemble. I'm careful with money, don't panic during downturns and play the long game. I can't really reassure my husband, because it's this "being a man" myth that gets in his way. It's hard on men to try to live up to what is a patriarchal assumption that hurts everyone. I've tried to liberate him, but it ain't easy, as they say.