I read John Lewis' message to be delivered after his death, and it touched me. I especially like the line that "democracy is an act". I'd already been contemplating whether it is better to leave a message for when you die. My daughter did not, and though I understand her reasons, and those of both my parents who did not because they were younger than I am now, I feel that my brother's note left on his desk, though it didn't answer a lot of questions, truly comforted me as I organized his estate, packed up some of his things to take with me, and faced his suicide.
I understand that we cannot say everything and cover every base in a note, but for me words have always had power and comforted. Now had my brother said harsh things undoubtedly I would feel differently, but his message was one of love and no blame. There was no anger or regret. He just wanted me to know he loved me.
I know my children and grandchildren know I love them by my ACTS, and I tell them, but I really want to leave them each a message as well. Tackling it will be hard. Choosing the words must be my greatest act of right speech. But I want to try.
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