Wandering Along the Path: Right Speech

I'm feeling like all my friends right now have heavy loads to bear:  elderly parents, family dying, health issues of their own, and coming to grips with the aging process in themselves.  My gratitude journal last night had a prompt that asked me when was the last time a person met a need of mine unasked, and I struggled to come up with something.  When I did, it was something my younger son had offered to help me with three months ago.  I was a bit stunned, then realized my friends have so much on their plate, and are so weary from the demands of their families and personal situations that they don't have the "juice" to offer unasked.  And I am the same.  That flame is really low right now.  I'm glad I volunteered to help with a foundation that serves youth, but my friend had to ask me, I did not offer unasked.  This is not who I want to be, so now that I'm conscious of it, I'm going to make the effort to offer help to my friends and family by noticing, really noticing their needs.  Not big stuff, necessarily, but the help that shows I'm aware of them and their struggles.  I need to wake up a bit more.  There is one friend I offer help unasked, and that is because she does the same for me.  We are currently attuned.  She usually doesn't accept, but she knows I'm ready and willing.  Now I want to extend that openheartedness to the rest of my world.  Being careful not to do so much I drain myself.  It's a fine balance.