Wandering Along the Path: Right Speech

My friend called this morning and we were wishing each other lovely holidays, when she said it had been a hard fall for her.  The nearby fires and crushing suffering they caused had depressed her, and she said she went out last week and bought a "boat load" of toys for the the children who are homeless because of the the fires.  She took them to the fire station, and the firefighters said they couldn't promise they would get to those kids, but definitely they would reach poor children.  I know that the victims don't need "things" directly, as an avalanche has been donated, but money to organizations who help them is the way to go.  My friend feels deeply about the people and animals lost and suffering because of the fires.  I told her I've been struggling as well, and see my therapist every few weeks because I feel so bad.  She also is reeling from her best friends' son dying suddenly of a heart attack, and watching their grief has saddened her so much.  How do we balance supporting those who are suffering with keeping up our own spirits?  She's doing the right thing:  taking what actions she can and being a good listener.  And I am being a good listener to her, because she is my friend.