Wandering Along the Path: Right Speech

I'm reading Roxanne Gay's "Not that Bad", a book she edited with stories from, as she puts it, "the rape culture".  Each story is powerful and different from the ones before, and they range from the physical to the mental.  These stories wake you up, and remind you of experiences you blamed yourself for or that seemed inconsequential at the time.  Honor is due:  women are on a battlefield most of the time, we just take it for granted.  Gay doesn't want us to be so cavalier about the "little things".  She wants us to sit up and notice how it's the little things that wear us down.  That and fear.  When we don't speak up we have good reason.  It's because we've seen what happens to women who do, and we don't want to be heroes, we want to be alive.  But if we don't pay attention to the little things, how will we protect our daughters and granddaughters?  How will they know it's not right for anyone to touch them, to catcall, to tease in mean ways.  How will they know to speak up in class and not let the boys hog the teacher and the conversation and the atmosphere?  And then how in the  blazes is anything ever going to change?