Wandering Along the Path: Right Speech

I saw "Three Billboards in Ebbing, Missouri" yesterday afternoon with a friend.  I was disappointed in the film, but really enjoyed the acting performances.  Frances McGormand, Woody Harrelson, Sam Rockwell stood out as complex, contradictory people.  They weren't cyphers for anything.  But the men in the audience laughed too long and too hard, and it disturbed me.  There was some message they thought they were getting that diminished the horror of the grief portrayed in the film.  One other time I remember, when I saw "Monster" starring Charlize Theron, a man keep laughing and being delighted by the murder of women by a woman, and I then thought this movie allows misogyny to be encouraged.  And something about the movie yesterday allowed men to make fun of rape and murder and racism, in a way that seemed complicit.  No women laughed.  This might not have been a failure of the filmmaker but rather a statement of the culture at this time, as my friend suggested.  But coupled with derogatory labels for women flung around, it makes fun of the rape and murder of women every day almost every hour.  I couldn't stomach it.  Don't add fuel to the fire by your word choice.  I believe this film might have been edited in a way that addressed the issues more directly so that the audience cannot get sidetracked by outrageous quips and sudden twists in the plot.  And then, perhaps, the film would better honor the characters it created.