I did a right speech act that is causing me pain. When a friend was asking my advice about her daughter's offer to pay for a rental if she moved north to help with the baby coming, I said it was an opportunity to not only bond with her granddaughter but also her daughter. We discussed pros and cons of moving up there, and she has now decided to make the move. She is renting where she is, so there is not that problem, and she can change her mind if she doesn't like the area. I think she's made a wise choice, but now I realize and did a bit at the time, that I will really miss her. We've been talking grandbabies and designing quilts, and generally sharing our joy about these babies, and now I've no one to really talk about this stuff with. Sigh.
It was a good deed, but all yesterday I felt depressed. As they say, no good deed goes unpunished. I will visit her, as she lives where my best friend lives, and after all my best friend and I have weathered the distance, but still. I'm gloomy.
The right choice is to think of the friend above oneself, but gee.
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